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For many people, the holidays are a stressful time in business and in their personal lives. It seems that no amount of “good cheer” and commercialized joy can make it better. The result is always a mis-aligned and ineffective personal brand.
If you look around, the products industry has figured out how to sell us “joy”- which is the only emotion that matters in order to get people to be attracted, and buy, from a business. For instance, Starbuck’s 2013 Holiday campaign is….Share Joy! Norwegian Cruise Lines has a Holiday Joy campaign, too. And of course, QVC invites us all to give joy this holiday season.
Do you get the picture? While you don’t have to go out spending lots of money to find your joy (you decide if that concept even really works for you), you can decide where to spend your money. Where you spend your money is an easy way to have your money count in ways that bring you profound joy. For instance, do you support fair trade or an organization that does great things for the community with your donation? For me this year, I have chosen to make all my holiday purchases at stores or charities that are either fair trade or directly support a cause or a group with which I am proud to be associated. Consider your money can serve as your voice and be used as a beautiful means to express your desire to see positive change/events happen in the world and your community.
Where exactly is your joy campaign as a service provider or professional? Most importantly, can you take that joy and have it last for eleven more months, or is it just relegated to December? While December is a good start, let’s see if you can make your joy, and thus your personal brand value, last longer!
Do you know the difference between showing your passion to the world versus just being emotional and perhaps, irrational? It’s a concept we don’t stop and think about often, especially with respect to personal brand management. We speak so much about making sure your work product is firmly grounded in your passion and purpose, we leave out HOW best to EXPRESS this passion you have.
This very concept came up for me last week. I was working with a client on how to prepare her best for negotiating a bigger chunk of the ownership of a company she currently co-owns with 2 other people. The snag is that the other two owners are men. She was lamenting that it is often difficult for her to communicate her passion for their wildly successful business without getting emotional. She feared that her emotion would be mistaken for uncontrolled emotion, perhaps.
As women, we tend to process emotions and feelings very differently than our male counterparts obviously. In business, this is often misinterpreted as women being “weak”, “overly emotional” and yes, even “erratic and out of control”.
The truth is none of these poor personal brand labels have to apply. In the case of my client, they are certainly not true. In fact, my client is anything but these labels. She is very clear about her worth and her passion for the business she co-owns. Now she just wants to convey that to her partners because she feels she deserves more equity.
The most important way to make sure your emotions don’t get misinterpreted with your passion, resulting in a negative personal brand perception is to:
1) be clear about your intentions- are you passionate about your work?
2) know how does your passion show up in your personal brand?
3) make sure you communicate your passion with emotion, but not with such overpowering emotion that you look out of control as a personal brand.
I always remind clients that being grateful, appreciating your life, clients and support system and- letting them all know your gratitude is where it is at! I cannot stress the importance of being grateful, and showing gratitude, as part of your strong personal brand.
So I’d like to take a minute and express my gratitude for all the readers of my blog, all of our clients, friends and family and for anyone who has crossed our path. You have all contributed deeply to my work and business and life. For this, I thank you.
Please always remember that every encounter you have with another person is an opportunity to let your personal brand shine, teach and learn from one another.
As I look around, so many clients within corporations struggle with being an effective leader. As we work together to evolve their personal brands into ones that lead well, I discover a big set back for those aspiring to leadership roles. This same set-back applies to anyone wanting to lead anything- not just in corporate America. So if you are a lawyer, financial adviser or rock star, the same applies.
People don’t really know, or intuitively “get”, what an optimal leader looks like. How can we expect them to be optimal and promotable, if they don’t know what that means for them? My task is to collaborate and evolve you into a visionary thought-leader so that others can see you as creative and thus, want to follow you. First, you have to increase your self-confidence, reduce your stress and take responsibility. If you are a CEO, that means you are responsible for your team. If you are a rock star, that means you are responsible to carry your message well to your fan base.
People often assume that leading means talking and giving marching orders. Far from it, I’ve found. I find too many clients wanting to talk, advise and be seen and heard- all the time.
A strong personal brand of a leader is harnessed by being supportive, and NOT aggressive. Think of yourself as a champion of others. What would that look like practically? Well, ideally you would be talking less (in meetings or on stage) because you would see yourself as the “big idea” person, ie, visionary, as the leader. Leaders don’t have to be espousing wisdom all the time- just putting in their advice and support to create the big picture, motivating their team/fans to execution of the big picture, and providing course corrections along the way.
What does this mean for you? Stop and consider, when given leadership opportunities ANYWHERE in your life:
- Do you offer support to others?
- Are you the champion of the entire process or stuck in the details, like others?
- Can you control the urge to talk and be heard, instead of sitting back, talking at optimal moments and watching your vision evolve and grow at the hands of able others you have put into place?
- Do you put your ego aside as best you can, alway?
When I left the practice of law many years ago, I went through a long, long phase of feeling lost and inadequate and confused. I never told anyone. I just sat with it all and wondered what I was supposed to be when I “grew up”. It took me really taking a long hard look at who I was, my passion and purpose for getting up every day and what came naturally to me (my gifts and talents) to really wake up and start the journey. This journey has culminated into a successful personal branding company where I am fortunate to bring this passion and purpose and natural talents to clients.
What it also took was becoming vulnerable. I had to let go of being a lawyer and allow myself to be a person. I then had to realize that I was good enough and didn’t need a label or a title. It felt much like being stripped naked. It was painful and raw.
But what came next was fantastic. Slowly, as I built up the company and started to see results for clients, I started to live into my new-found being and purpose. I began living with, and expressing, joy and love. I found my strength. I also realized that expressing vulnerability made me stronger and even more fabulous. As a result, my personal brand became stronger and so did the business brand.
The concept of vulnerability has been beautifully researched by the fabulous Brene’ Brown. Brene’ describes herself as a “researcher storyteller”. Her fantastic Ted Talk on vulnerability and shame has exploded the field wide open. I had the pleasure of hearing her speak in person in June at the Inc. Magazine Leadership Conference.
Brene’ says that she was researching to expand perception- that a piece of her research fundamentally expanded her perception. She discovered that connection gives purpose and meaning to our lives. It is why we are here. Through her research, she discovered shame as being a fear of disconnection. Shame unravels connection and makes people unworthy of connection. Underpinning this concept was deep vulnerability. Brene’ holds that in order to connect, we must allow ourselves to really be seen.
Brene’ holds that what keeps us from connection is our fear of connection. According to her, people who succeed here and live full out, had a sense of authenticity, courage and connection and fully embraced vulnerability and believed what made them vulnerable, made them beautiful.
In a nutshell, Brene’ found that vulnerabilty is necessary. It is the birthplace of joy, belonging and love.
We live in a vulnerable world. As I’ve always said, successful personal branding means you develop a connection with others. This requires you to be open to others, share your uniqueness and story. Only then will you be living in the only emotion that sells your brand- joy. Only then will people want to get to know you.
It all starts with you being strong enough to do the self-discovery work we have you do. This requires you to be, and always stay, vulnerable. As a result, I feel safe and equal to you- as a brand and as a person. As I have often said, I have deep respect for my clients for working with us and going “there” with us. The results are always fantastic.
There is a balance between being vulnerable and owning your strength as a person and your personal brand. We only want to hire strong, well-rounded people with balanced personal brands.
So, as Brene’ says, let yourself be seen, love wholeheartedly, practice gratitude and joy and believe you are enough. Only then will your personal brand be so strong that it will convert masses to your side- always