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Part II- Stagnation In Your Family Life. Is Your Brand Dull and In Need of Change?

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If you recall from last week’s post, this is part two of or my four-part posting regarding stagnation in all areas of our lives.   As I said last week, I have Oprah as motivation and inspiration for these posts on stagnation.

Oprah has talked about this topic of stagnation in her “What I know for sure” column of her September 2014 O Magazine, “The Two Questions You Should Ask Yourself Each Day”. Oprah, whether she knows it or not, is my mentor because I have incredible respect and appreciation for her presence in this world. I am taking her topic post and going deeper and looking at it from one of my viewpoints. This method is how I decide what is the next best area that ‘sparkles with rightness’.

So last week we chatted about stagnation in our business lives.  This week, let’s chat about how we tend to stagnate in our family life.  For most of us, we are so busy that we tend to put our family lives last.

I know that for me, it takes constant and chronic effort to put my family first- or at least not last!  I am somewhat embarrassed to admit it, but I have to “work” daily to overcome this nasty mentality (and I mean “nasty” because it never serves me well!) that my husband and family will just love me and understand me, and thus forgive me, if I’m (fill in the blank).  The fill-in-the-blank ranges anything from “tired” to “short” to “mad” to “sad”.

One day I had an “ah-ha” moment and realized what I was doing.  It was not pretty and it was rather shocking, I must admit.  Since that day, I always have to force myself and stop and think, “is this fair to these people that I love?”  The answer is always a resounding “no”.  Just because people love me and will put up with me in the short term, doesn’t mean I can assume they will do so forever.

Long story, short: thinking your family will always be there and put up with you makes for a very unattractive personal brand in your entire personal life.  Pretty soon, if we keep it up we will find ourselves all alone. Either that, or everyone walks on egg-shells around us and starts to whisper around us.  They may as well be saying, “don’t disturb the nutty relative”.

If you can’t bring yourself to revive your stagnating personal brand in your family life, consider the impact it has on your business life.  Anything you do poorly by way of a personal brand at home with your family follows you to work each and every day. I promise you this.  I know when I have had a poor brand at home, it always impacts my work the next day. I then have to exercise a tremendous amount of self-awareness and control to reverse the impact.

Again, change is hard.  No question about it. Change is also a bit nauseating, I have found.  It is really hard for me to stop and take a long, hard look at my nasty ways at home.  I have done so many times and let me tell you it is well worth the pay-off long term.  It definitely takes courage.

So consider for yourself whether you have a dull and stagnate personal brand with your family:

-Have you stopped lately to notice how you come across to your family?  If not, why not?  

-What could possibly be the benefit of not bothering to change at home with your family?  

– How can you take better care of yourself in order to feel better about yourself and pass that brand on in your interactions with your family?  Perhaps you can try eating better, exercising more and sleeping a bit more each night.  

– What is one action you can take to remind yourself to be self-aware of your brand around your family?

First, Know Yourself So You Know What To Market.